Borrowing Trouble

How many of you are familiar with the phrase “Don’t borrow trouble”? If you aren’t familiar with it, “borrowing trouble” means to worry.

I was thinking about the phrase the other day while … well, borrowing trouble.

When you borrow something, you usually have the intention of returning it, right? You borrow your neighbor’s ladder. The neighbor expects it returned. Your child borrows your car. You REALLY expect it to be returned. Preferably with a full tank of gas and, as one child pointed out, in the same condition that it left in. You get the idea.

When we borrow trouble, do we have the intention of returning it?

How would we even go about doing that if we wanted to?

Think about it. It starts to storm. Pea-sized hail begins coming down. Your vehicle is outside. Are you borrowing trouble with thoughts of will my vehicle get damaged? The hail stops; no damage. You think to yourself, “Well, I don’t need that worry anymore. I’m going to return it.” How do you go about returning a worry? Do they have someplace online or a store you can return it to? How do you package the return?

Borrowing, as we usually understand it, costs nothing. But borrowing trouble is anything but free.

It can cost a great deal. It can cost you your health. We used to associate ulcers with borrowing trouble, and certainly the stress of worrying needlessly isn’t healthy.

It can cost trust in business and personal interactions. Will that person follow through?

It can cost money. Have you lost a business opportunity because you were so busy borrowing trouble about what could go wrong that the deadline passed?

It costs time and focus. How much time did you spend borrowing trouble about your car getting hailed on and the possible damage when you could have put that focus into finishing a project? Better yet, you could have been thinking of your next project, which could actually be something related to preventing hail damage.

Borrowing trouble also costs peace, one of the most priceless things there is. While our minds are occupied with all that could go wrong, we miss all that could go right. We miss all the positive things around us when we are so focused on the negative that might go wrong.

We worry about what could go wrong while giving a speech. Will the audience like it? Will I make an emotional connection with them? Am I dressed right? Will I forget my speech?

What if instead we started having faith? We started having confidence?

You notice, I said having. I didn’t say borrowing.

Borrowing, again, implies returning. We don’t want to return faith. We don’t want to return confidence.

What would happen if the next time you start borrowing trouble, you said, “Whoa pony soldier” (yes, I like John Wayne films) and instead said, “I don't want to borrow something I can’t return? The cost is too high.” What if you started to make it a habit to not borrow trouble?

What would your life look like? How much peace would you gain? How many positive things would you see and be able to focus on?

How would that affect your relationships with others? What kind of leader would that make you? Because remember, we are all leading someone with our example.

If you are borrowing more trouble than you want to, reach out for Discovery Session with one of our coaches. It costs you nothing except the time to have a conversation

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