Finding Wellness in Anxiety

Updated: Jul 11

I want to give you a warning before you start to read - This might seem a little freaky. The event I’m going to share happened about 15-20 years ago when I ran a drug and alcohol transitional facility in Lincoln. I dealt with every kind of person you can imagine. I loved the people and my job. I was the director, friend, mental health, drug/alcohol counselor - everything to everyone. (I did not know about Coaching at that time!)

My story begins late, on a Sunday night.


I was in a dead sleep when the call came in. One of my clients was having a terrible night. The group home manager didn’t know what to do. No one could figure out what the problem was. I didn’t know what to do, so I got up and drove to the house.


The house was very dark except in the living room. I saw two people talking to this weightlifter, right off the prison weight yard, solid bodied form - and he looked like he was freaking out. He was frantically pacing around with no apparent idea as to why. A panic attack can make you think you’re hearing things, or your heart is beating so fast it feels like it’s going to come right out of your chest.



My first thought was he had taken something.


That was also my first question. I always have a few pointed things I ask in these situations. My clients know me pretty well, and they know I talk straight with them. He looked right at me and said, “I don’t know what’s wrong.” There was terror in his eyes - almost as though something was going to attack him from nowhere.


I didn’t want to wake the other 20 people in this huge home, so we began walking around the block - all 4 of us. I know from my own experience that when I am freaking out, walking is one of the best go-to’s I have. We finally settled out in the yard under a big, beautiful tree, in a few of the many chairs gathered under it. I asked him how his day had gone. What was going on and if anything had happened? It’s interesting when people start


to think and talk about themselves. As he thought and talked, he started to become less agitated.


He shared that in a few days he was going to go see his family for the first time in a long time. He would visit there for two or three days and it scared him. If I had know this was coming, I would have tried to help him prepare. He could have shared it with me on Monday, but he had held onto that all week long.


Imagine if you have a new job or a life changing event, and you didn’t have anyone to talk about it with. The simple act of sharing with someone can help you work through all emotion, allowing you to unpack it instead of holding onto it.


We spent a bit more time that night, and over the next couple days figuring out different things he could do to help him while he was home. He had a great visit, and skipping forward in time, he has stayed out of prison. I still get an occasional postcard from him.


Anxiety can be helped.


Create a plan of action, and if you work that plan, you will be successful. My name is David Staenberg and I’m a wellness coach/thinking partner with Leadership Harb


or. I’d love to schedule a 30 minute Discovery Session to talk about what’s happening in your life.


We have amazing coaches, just like myself. People who can help you unpack all kinds of business or personal decisions, so give us a try.


Be safe. Be healthy. Be balanced.

David